Are we making unfair generalizations about men when we talk about sexism? But this objection actually reveals a sexist double standard. Click for the Transcript. Alli : There seem to be a lot of people out there who are upset by generalizations about men. English is a heavily idiomatic language and generalizations are commonly understood as a conversational shorthand technique to talk about groups without having to identify individuals or outliers within the group.
A woman and a man in the foreground are talking to one another; in the background a woman is speaking with a man who is driving a flashy car. Man : Women are so shallow, all they care about is finding a rich boyfriend.
The woman is speaking to a different man. They are standing in front of a Sephora store. Why choose someone like him over someone like me? The woman is walking with all three men from the previous panels. A man in a car driving by is catcalling her. Woman : Generalizing is a rhetorical device, and you all know it. Share Tweet 14K Shares. Alli Kirkham is a Contributing Comic Artist for Everyday Feminism and blogger, cartoonist, and intersectional feminist.
Check her out on Twitter allivanlahr. Panel Two A woman and a man in the foreground are talking to one another; in the background a woman is speaking with a man who is driving a flashy car. Panel Three The woman is speaking to a different man. Man : Why do women always go for jerks? Panel Five The woman is walking with all three men from the previous panels.
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All men are Trash! Why can't I find a good man?
Become an EF Member. Donate to EF. Cross-post Our Articles. Book a Speaker. Like Our Facebook Page. Follow Us On Instagram.The phrase "men are trash" has become somewhat ubiquitous in pop culture lately. If you haven't ever said it yourself, you've probably heard it from someone else, or read it in a post from one of your favorite meme accounts. In fact, its become common enough for Facebook to recognize as "hate speech," though that's a whole other story. But what exactly does it mean, beyond the fairly obvious idea that men suck?
Allow Twitter user Zion Destiny to break it down for you. On Tuesday, Destiny took to Twitter in a now-viral threadlisting out a whopping 37 reasons why women say that men are trash. Though she exempts "the good guys" from her thread for those "not all men" respondersshe lays it all out, and it is a treat to read.
So what do we really mean when we say "men are trash? For starters, she says, men tend to call women "hoes" for everything they do, but slut-shame women for being sexually active while still wanting to be with someone who's sexually experienced.
Bye pic. Ya'll think your girl needs your permission to wear something revealing. And it's not just about the hypocrisy that men can have when it comes to women's sexuality — she also called out the ramifications of toxic masculinity and male entitlement. Y'all don't understand having respect for women until we say "What if that was your mother,sister,grandma etc. Women are scared to walk alone at night because of y'all pic. We could go on and on, but suffice to say, Destiny dropped some serious truths about what women really mean when we say "men are trash.
Destiny tells Refinery29 that she wanted to post the thread because she was inspired by the "misogyny, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, gender roles, double standards" she witnesses, and by "being a young woman myself and experiencing all the things women do. Though she says that the response to her thread has been incredibly positive with, of course, a few exceptions since it is the internetshe hopes that if anyone does feel offended by what she wrote, that they examine why they feel that way.
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In The Know. Who What Wear. Women's Health. Harper's Bazaar.I was born and raised an orphan in a land that once was free In a land that poured its love out on the moon; and I grew up in the shadows of your silos filled with grain, but you never helped to fill my empty spoon. And when I was ten you murdered law with courtroom politics, And you learned to make a lie sound just like truth; But I know you better now and I don't fall for all your tricks, And you've lost the one advantage of my youth.
You kill a black man at midnight just for talking to your daughter, Then you make his wife your mistress and you leave her without water; And the sheet you wear upon your face is the sheet your children sleep on, At every meal you say a prayer; you don't believe but still you keep on.
And your money says in God we trust, But it's against the law to pray in school; You say we beat the Russians to the moon, And I say you starved your children to do it. You are far across the ocean but the war is not your own, And while you're winning theirs, you're gonna lose the one at home; Do you really think the only way to bring about the peace Is to sacrifice your children and kill all your enemies?
The politicians all make speeches while the news men all take note, And they exaggerate the issues as they shove them down our throats; Is it really up to them whether this country sinks or floats? Well I wonder who would lead us if none of us would vote.
Well my phone is tapped and my lips are chapped from whispering through the fence, You know every move I make, or is that just coincidence? Well you try to make my way of life a little less like jail, If I promise to make tapes and slides and send them through the mail. You say all men are equal, all men are brothers, Then why are the rich more equal than others? Don't ask me for the answer, I've only got one: That a man leaves his darkness when he follows the Son.
Please click here if you are not redirected within a few seconds. You gotta check out.This is not just my favorite song from Back to Black. This is, quite possibly, one of my favorite scorned woman songs. I miss Amy Winehouse. Sheryl has never been one to mince words and this song is definitely no exception. She sings about her relationship honestly and that honesty is what makes the song so great.
The woman in this song has been pushed down and held back by the man in her life until she finally decides to leave to follow her dreams. This is one of my all time favorite scorned woman songs. A little juvenile? I have to admit that this one is one of my favorites. In this song, a woman is being mistreated in her relationship. She responds by not only leaving but rubbing his own foolishness in his face as she leaves.
What better way to get back at a shallow, money grubbing ex than to hit him where it really hurts — his wallet. Not a bad way to get revenge when you really think about it. You get the satisfaction of sticking it to your ex but you also get something physical to remind you of that revenge.
This song is about finding your strength and using that strength to turn the tables. What do you do when your man is causing you to shed tears and you finally decide that enough is enough? You turn the tables on him. Why sit home alone and cry, wishing your man was better to you when you could go out, have fun and turn the tables on him. This song is all about refusing to let someone walk all over you and make you feel like less than you are. This one is a classic. And Carrie always seemed to sweet and innocent!
This monster hit not only showed the world a whole new side of Carrie but also gave scorned women everywhere an anthem they could crank up and sing along with to vent their frustrations. That way, you can get out some of that anger but not have to worry about dealing with silly things like the police and vandalism at least charges.
This one is all about being strong and taking charge of your life. Much like Goodbye Earl from the Dixie Chicks a few years back, this song is about ending the cycle of an abusive relationship in a very permanent way.By Lance Witten Sep 6, The thing I want to say is that through all of this, we as men need to take responsibility and be accountable for our actions — not only our own, but the actions of all the men all around us all of the time.
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The simple fact of the matter is: MenAreTrash. You get these men who say: "Yes, but not ALL men are trash" before listing all the amazing things they do for the women in their lives, but let me explain how I see it. Not all mosquitoes bite, but you don't check the gender of a mosquito before killing it as it threatens your peaceful night's sleep; not all sharks attack humans, but as soon as the flag goes up on the beach, you get out of the water; not all lions kill humans, but you don't go jogging through the Kruger Park.
Someone once posted about the fact that not all snakes are venomous, but that doesn't prevent you from being wary of them. Men pose the number one threat to the lives of women. They are scared to walk around late at night.
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They are scared to take an Uber. They are scared to go to bathrooms alone. Men, we can't even comprehend that level of threat. No other living thing on earth rapes and kills more women than men. Imagine how frightening it must be for a woman to go on a date. To meet that Tinder guy. What it must feel like for us to slide into their DMs.
Can you imagine? No, you can't, because you're a man and you've never had to worry about that. That's the privilege we enjoy. Now, what can we do about it? Well, it starts with the acknowledgement of our failing as men. It starts with personal accountability, and to this end, I would like to explain why I believe in MenAreTrash I have laughed at and forwarded sexist and misogynistic jokes.
This makes me trash. I have cheated on women and I have lied to them. I have slid into DMs, and entertained having my DMs slid into. I have been guilty of unwanted physical contact touching a woman without her consent. I have flirted with women who did not want to be flirted with. I have seen other men disrespecting women and done nothing. I have called women names and spoken ill of them among friends. I have bragged about "conquests".Grown-ass man.
Every woman who dates men deserves herself such a man. For those of you who may be unfamiliar with what exactly constitutes a grown-ass manlet me, a man, help describe this righteous dude in all his glory. A grown-ass man is undeniably secure and confident with himself. Essentially, a grown-ass man is a modern take on the gentleman. Any questions? So in both cases, the man who speaks highly of his precious penis, is not a grown-ass man.
Like his manhood, a man will mention his money as a means of winning a girl over. Unfortunately, sometimes this works. The only reason he wants to talk about your exes is to see how he measures up against them. Did you upgrade when dating him? A man who tries to steer his partner away from her friends has some strange kind of agenda where he selfishly wants you all to himself. This is no grown-ass man. Nor is the guy who keeps the price tag on gifts or the guy who tells everyone how much his car costs.
He's using these price tags as a means of talking himself up. Similarly to bragging about his income stated priorhe's making his belongings his most attractive quality. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage? Check out our new podcast, I Want It That Waywhich delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on our Soundcloud page. His manhood.I am a woman of Generation Y and I've just turned 29 years old.
I've been looking for Mr. Right since I was 26 and there's one little problem I keep running into: There are no Mr. Rights lining up to marry me!
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I know I'm not alone here, because I've seen plenty of articles on the Internet about women just like me having the same problem. I really don't know what's wrong with me, and why men aren't more interested in me.
I'll admit I've made some mistakes. Like most women of my generation, I grew up being taught that I could do anything I wanted, and that there'd never be consequences for my actions. I was always taught that I deserved the world, and that my entire life would fall into perfect harmony any time I wanted it to, including marriage, promptly by the age of You see, being taught these notions as a little girl, I decided to do what most of my girlfriends did: once I got out of high school, I spent the next ten years "finding myself" by spending all of my free time chain-smoking cigarettes and getting drunk in bars and clubs.
There were many men I got involved with during this period of my life. None of them were the wholeseome kind of men you could build a life with, but I didn't care. I wanted action. I wanted excitement and drama.
I knew those men never cared about me and only wanted sex, but I gave it to them anyway. Some of them hit me, and a few smashed in my car windows, but whatever.
I've been with over fifty men, not counting the ones I just fooled around with. Is this hurting my chance to find true love? There were a few really great men who came into and out of my life during this period, usually from outside the bar scene. They were men who really cared about me, who were concerned for my well being, and who did the little special things to let me know they cared, but I ignored them.
I did, I'll admit it. Every man who came into my life who displayed these positive traits - the kind of traits that could have led to stability and happiness - I rejected. I found them boring. Honestly, I was having too much fun with my lifestyle to ever take notice of the men who actually treated me like a human being.
I was addicted to promiscuous sex with bad boys who never loved me. Most of my girlfriends were the same way. Why settle for a good man before you have to, right?! Now I'm 29 years old. I only drink on the weekends and I've curbed my smoking somewhat, but it's taken a real toll on my body. My looks are fading, and my biological clock is ticking.
I am a single mother of one child born out of wedlock to an abusive, no-good father who never loved me or even had a relationship with me. Not that I wanted a relationship - he was just some guy I met in a bar and I liked how he talked to me like I was dirt. What can I say, it made me hot. He's currently in prison for armed robbery, so he's not coming back for another eleven years.
I guess it helps to know that I'm not alone in this. Nearly all of my girlfriends made the same decisions I made, and we're all having trouble landing quality, marriage-minded men now that we're getting older.